A case of burning just a little too brightly too quickly, perhaps.“A few years back you accepted it would take a long time to get to know someone but today we have a sense of immediacy and I think this is going to become a big problem: the inability to wait for anything.
You are constantly being bombarded with opportunity.
It is almost becoming the norm to go on a date with someone, and then as soon as someone else comes along, you just bin them.“There is also the chance that there will be people who use it like stamp collecting; they are waiting for the Penny Black, sifting through every opportunity until they find it.
Sometimes online dating can be used in an unhealthy way.”David, 39, from North London, had been using the traditional lonelyhearts newspaper advertisement on and off for 10 years.
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Dating is easy for those who are sincere and serious in their search but also use sober mind in order not to be hooked by the mind-players.
He shifted to online dating last year but admits you need to be aware of the pitfalls and that it may not be all romance and roses.“I think it should maybe come with a bit of a health warning,” he says. You look through the gallery and read profiles but it is still a random shot in the dark."Initially it can be quite exciting.
You can get caught in the trap of going on lots of dates, which can become a bit addictive.”Dating coach Jo Hemmings suggests “proceeding with caution but also with enthusiasm” and to be prepared for the knock backs.
It takes information and pictures from Facebook, showing you “matches” who are geographically near you.
“For a small minority this behaviour becomes addictive.
It is all about the chase and the effect it has on their self-esteem.”Such people, she says, can appear dazzling, “phosphorus daters” who “can go off like a sky rocket only to end up in a pile of dust”.
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