Lds dating etiquette
Unfortunately, the active LDS community is struggling as well.
We have been told that “we’ve never had a better generation of young people in the Church than we have today.” Why, then, are we losing more to immorality than we have ever lost? If you had surveyed an LDS community, you may have found that those personally acquainted with a friend or family member who had engaged in premarital sex were an anomaly.
If this scene were to be reenacted in real life, it would certainly raise some eyebrows and gasps. Whether or not a man or woman are friends, strangers or co-laborers, if the individual is married it is generally understood in the Church that “going out” with someone else, someone other than his or her spouse, is unthinkable.
This discussion begs the following question: if it is considered wrong for a married individual to date other friends, (though they are not “in love”, have years of world experience and know the clear expectations and boundaries for their interaction) why is it considered normal for single young men and women?
Instead we see relationships with no intended commitment, young men who don’t want to grow up, women who are not constant, increasing struggles with pornography and fornication, skyrocketing divorce, broken hearts, ruined friendships, jealousy, wasted time over “who likes who” and the list goes on.
The definition of “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results” different.Considering the fact that I believe this to be a very serious issue, these comments cause great concern. Hinckley mourned: Perhaps our greatest concern is with families. The old ties that bound together father and mother and children are breaking everywhere. But are these statistics only symptoms of the real problem? Smith prophesied that in the last days “there are at least three dangers that threaten the Church within, and the authorities need to awaken to the fact that the people should be warned unceasingly against them.What has changed in the past several decades to create this catastrophe? As I see these, they are flattery of prominent men in the world, false education ideas, and sexual impurity.” (emphasis added) Note that in this prophecy these issues appear WITHIN, not outside, the Church.Divorce rates are soaring and single adults outnumber married couples in the United States.An even greater concern among parents today is the ever increasing threat of pornography.